This is a pretty personal interview with the fantastic Clare Edwards from Change-Works. I asked Clare on the show to help me with some of my own issues around being an introvert, accepting criticism of work and negative feedback and also how to stay positive in the face of a huge task ahead. I’m in that mid-year slump right now, exhausted and busy with the day job and trying to finish the first draft of the novel as well as everything else.
This session really helped me, so I hope it helps you too!
Clare Edwards is the Principal of Change-Works, specialising in inspiring potential in people. She is an expert in managing the change process, as well as encouraging personal development and resilience.
In this podcast, you will learn:
- The difference between introverts and extroverts as personality types, and how this relates to natural preferences for being energised, or how to recharge our batteries. Introverts are energised towards our inner world, concepts and ideas. Extroverts are energised by being around people. So introverts need to have ‘alone time’ to re-energise. But that doesn’t mean introverts are shy, so they can still be speakers and run workshops etc.
- Creative people can live too much in the inner world which may hinder us from sharing with others. To get your message out there, you may have to explore the opposite world. We have all the elements of personality in us, but they are all on a sliding scale. Embrace the side we are least comfortable with, and this will help us become more successful. For me personally, phoning people for these podcasts is still difficult.
- Introverts prefer non-verbal communication – which is natural for writers. Introverts also prefer to reflect first before they speak. Understanding the way you are can really help with how you feel about the way you are.
- Speakers and performers are not necessarily extroverts. Introverts can succeed as speakers as they are passionate about their message, and choose their words carefully. Video with author Malcolm Gladwell “speaking is a medium to share your message effectively”.
- Be yourself. Look at your strengths and start within your comfort zone and then expand from there. Reflect on your values and opinions around marketing and selling. Come from the perspective of being in the spirit to serve. You might also work with someone else who has contrasting personality aspects – or at least learn from them. The internet also offers the opportunity for introverted authors to reach a huge audience.
- Speakers are generally shocking speakers, so it makes a huge difference when you are a good speaker. Example of Roddy Doyle at the Hay Festival whose great talk inspired many book sales.
- On protecting self-esteem and encouraging resilience in the face of criticism and rejection. The difference between Thinkers and Feelers in terms of head vs heart, objective vs subjective reactions. Aim is to de-personalise feedback and step into the role of the critic. If is not their aim to attack you personally, or to hurt you. Feedback is an opportunity to refine or improve your work. Stop before opening your mouth to defend yourself. What is the intent of the feedback?
- Take time between receiving feedback and responding to it. Victor Frankl “between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response, and in our response is our growth and our freedom“.
- Develop an attitude of persistence. Every rejection takes you one step closer to ‘yes‘. Look to your role models in terms of how much authors overcome to get to publication and an audience.
- On the successful mindset. What is the legacy that I want to leave? What will be my unique footprint when I move on? Use this to help us get on track. Before sleeping, what am I grateful for? Reflect and get perspective on your life. Look at where you are successful and get some balance.
- Stay present in this moment. It’s one step at a time. Look at the one thing you can do today to get to your goal. Don’t get depressed and self-pitying focusing on where you are not right now. Surround yourself with success and learn from people who have got there already. Look at the gift in the challenge and the journey on the way.
Thank you Clare. That was fantastic!